tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post5739153505209519742..comments2023-07-22T09:21:36.182-04:00Comments on Peeling The Onion: When Saying “No” Can Bring You CloserAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02547029401388076822noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-86235096565255391232011-05-17T13:58:06.452-04:002011-05-17T13:58:06.452-04:00I understand your point Carri. I should perhaps h...I understand your point Carri. I should perhaps have been more clear that I really did agree with my mother about the danger. I don't think wanting to protect your child from legitimate danger, like teen drunk driving, is selfish. I didn't actually have my license at the time, so I could not have been responsible. And I honestly don't see how I could have grown from that particular experience.<br /><br />There are no hard-and-fast rules when it comes to parenting, and each situation calls for an honest look at the pros and cons and the potential danger (and its likelihood). In this story, I believed my mother's judgment call was the right one, and still do. My friends did drive home after drinking that night. No one got hurt, but that was just dumb luck.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547029401388076822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-78394013301960144542011-05-16T22:18:05.528-04:002011-05-16T22:18:05.528-04:00I am not sure what to make of this story.
I agree...I am not sure what to make of this story.<br /><br />I agree the why is very important but the selfish, "I will be sad," answer seems to make it worse. Plenty of teenagers manage to have fun at a concert even drinking and have a sober person drive them home. And your story makes it sound like you would have been responsible. Life is for living not hiding every time something could go wrong. And people grow immensely from new circumstances that push them out of their comfort zones.Carri Craverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01271229046736469881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-54560008229676839132011-05-14T10:20:01.653-04:002011-05-14T10:20:01.653-04:00Wow, can I send this back through time to my paren...Wow, can I send this back through time to my parents? And then put it to retroactive use with my own children? Somewhere along the line my children seem to have picked up wisdom such as you write about and their children have the benefit of it. <br /><br />To be perfectly fair, I was seldom told no. Mostly I knew I would be and didn't ask. Perhaps it was the same with my children. They almost never asked for things we had to deny them. So life was not as grim as my previous paragraph may make it sound.Sharon Lippincotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16269757107845288737noreply@blogger.com