tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.comments2023-07-22T09:21:36.182-04:00Peeling The OnionAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02547029401388076822noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-32425091301238092412015-01-10T05:13:44.456-05:002015-01-10T05:13:44.456-05:00Yes very much true Heidi..It's not only with t...Yes very much true Heidi..It's not only with the images..it happens with the sound, the smell and words too..Getting aware of the same and changing works out well..Rajhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07375483508130878889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-17880063850695519332014-11-05T02:08:04.018-05:002014-11-05T02:08:04.018-05:00Yes Indeed..Brooding over past mistakes will noway...Yes Indeed..Brooding over past mistakes will noway make our present any happier..Rajhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07375483508130878889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-58420474298058855122012-09-21T21:45:25.226-04:002012-09-21T21:45:25.226-04:00I'm still not a fan of To-do lists. My husband...I'm still not a fan of To-do lists. My husband lives by them. I feel controlled by them and constantly feel like a failure if they don't get completed. I've tried the time limit thing and then feel as if I'm under pressure. I use them for work for tasks that must be completed by a specific date; but, that's about all.Rochellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07753117177126567004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-81177764519438491712012-07-25T15:57:37.367-04:002012-07-25T15:57:37.367-04:00Great story! It works the same way across cultures...Great story! It works the same way across cultures. After all, we are all humans and work the same way. <br /><br />I wonder at what point there is a limit? If Jenny is open minded and Tom is not - then you have to talk! Talking about problems always helps.Vishal Goelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15671829523874587282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-89098682781297576442012-05-22T18:16:55.744-04:002012-05-22T18:16:55.744-04:00Howze this for obsessive, I have my To Do Lists go...Howze this for obsessive, I have my To Do Lists going back to 7th grade. The idea of approaching the list just like that of a Doctor's appointment is a brilliant one, as is fleshing out from the list not only "what," but "when," "where," and "how." That makes for a good app idea! (Split the money with me if you make it first?!) Best.The ASC Doctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03090634701474355041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-18065419055539277492012-02-02T08:51:33.404-05:002012-02-02T08:51:33.404-05:00Really good piece.I'vee been outside sweeping ...Really good piece.I'vee been outside sweeping the garden path.....it's too cold for a long session but it's grest to be out of doors;Kathryn https://www.blogger.com/profile/07612097088481427658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-61420357493203568502012-01-19T09:49:29.435-05:002012-01-19T09:49:29.435-05:00There was a recent study of recordings made of wom...There was a recent study of recordings made of women visiting their men in jail. The men were there due to violence they did to the women, some of it very severe.<br /><br />The men didn't threaten "If you don't get me out, I'll hurt you when I do get out."<br /><br />Instead, they apologized. It's terrible in here. This is way worse than what I deserve. I only broke your jaw, but they locked me up for a felony! I'm not like the others in here. It's so unfair. They're working to break us apart. We need to work together, stand together against the system. It's us against the world.<br /><br />Insidious, and very powerful on a woman who doesn't value herself.CricketBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07179386912230285716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-35961815091982374922011-12-22T08:20:04.655-05:002011-12-22T08:20:04.655-05:00What I gather from this article, and perhaps what ...What I gather from this article, and perhaps what you didn't explicitly state, which is that it's hard to bring yourself to be grateful, or enjoy or savor or appreciate, when there is a significant external negative stimulus.<br /><br />Happy Holidays!Randy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-36251759674615192612011-12-14T16:52:49.218-05:002011-12-14T16:52:49.218-05:00Yep, this is what I do.
And I understand you do N...Yep, this is what I do.<br /><br />And I understand you do NOT mean to give up If-Then planning. You mean stop worrying about things you can't reasonably, perhaps quickly, apply an If-Then to so it can be put aside as 'managed'.Randy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-81110810051615761672011-12-07T11:30:33.726-05:002011-12-07T11:30:33.726-05:00Thanks so much for these lovely questions to put i...Thanks so much for these lovely questions to put in my toolbag for the holidays. Now I just need to remember to really listen to the answers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-10112305065354128582011-12-07T10:56:14.434-05:002011-12-07T10:56:14.434-05:00Hello Dr. Heidi,
I am constant reader of your blo...Hello Dr. Heidi,<br /><br />I am constant reader of your blog and I like your postings. I use Google Reader or any other offline/online rss reader, but I found that rss update is unreadable in a sense that random "blank spaces" are missing in the text so that makes it impossible to read. I wonder if you could do anything to fix this updates, and my guess is something is wrong with rss feed coding.<br /><br />Thank you.<br />Regards,<br />FeruzAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12419982745674653047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-39700198859233962342011-12-02T01:36:11.768-05:002011-12-02T01:36:11.768-05:00i wish i knew what you mean..sometimes i feel like...i wish i knew what you mean..sometimes i feel like i have absolutely NO passion in life..i really dont know what i enjoy doing most..i never get "high " about soing something..though i do know that i am content with my station in life right now..am not too sure abt the future....in_searchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07104504317675064685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-52822675769896584522011-11-29T13:06:03.714-05:002011-11-29T13:06:03.714-05:00Was it you that also mentioned the value of "...Was it you that also mentioned the value of "Synchronous activity"? ... that group, in-sync, activities, bind people together better.<br /><br /> * Singing together<br /> * Cheers at sporting events<br /> * Drumming or dancing together<br /> * Pledge of allegiance<br /> * Shouting slogans at rallies or marches<br /> * Tai chi<br /> * YogaRandy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-61591883293553333802011-11-23T12:56:35.639-05:002011-11-23T12:56:35.639-05:00Thank you for your work to make the world a better...Thank you for your work to make the world a better place.Randy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-66731825801488914252011-11-16T13:01:47.626-05:002011-11-16T13:01:47.626-05:00I don't disagree but it's frankly I need h...I don't disagree but it's frankly I need help on this one. I don't know how to tell the difference between my nature and nurture.<br /><br />You sometimes write article about how we should challenge our nature, that a person who doesn't feel they're good at math should strive to improve their skill anyway because it's a basic life skill.<br /><br />(And I feel the same way about introverts too... they don't have to become extroverts but there's a big difference between being able to enjoy solitude when you choose it vs. always wanting to escape to it.)<br /><br />Before I didn't like broccoli, now it's my favorite. Was learning to love inauthentic or such?<br /><br />How does one tell the difference between "I don't want to" and "I taught myself I don't want to."?Randy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-23324983219691757252011-11-15T15:03:03.872-05:002011-11-15T15:03:03.872-05:00I needed to hear this right now. Not eventually! T...I needed to hear this right now. Not eventually! Thank You Heidi. :o) Phew I feel lighter already.<br /><br />Maripluckychickenhearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00564646033778401027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-30724522147958272032011-11-08T17:04:23.946-05:002011-11-08T17:04:23.946-05:00Right!... can't validate something in the Exis...Right!... can't validate something in the Existential domain ('self') with Conventional ('things').Randy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-8914380938970472042011-11-03T08:33:48.347-04:002011-11-03T08:33:48.347-04:00Excellent (forgotten) reminder. I was recently not...Excellent (forgotten) reminder. I was recently noticing that people seem far more "detached" possibly anti-social than when I was growing up (children and adults alike).Common introductions,courtesies,simple social interactions are non-existent in some settings.Try saying"good morning",or "hello" to the person on-line at the coffee shop,better yet try it for a week,see the results.Great post,good reminders-and not just for children.Jim Devinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10559734881283500229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-69283520860290399782011-11-02T11:27:10.239-04:002011-11-02T11:27:10.239-04:00The breakdown of the Golden Rule (The Law of Recip...The breakdown of the Golden Rule (The Law of Reciprocity) is surely one of this generations greatest failings.<br /><br />There is so much less shame now than every under the guise of 'being authentic'. The kid who wears pants half way down as 'expressing myself' and concludes that means to ignore any shame.Randy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-14190098212764840012011-10-10T18:21:54.871-04:002011-10-10T18:21:54.871-04:00I love it that this was posted on my 50th birthday...I love it that this was posted on my 50th birthday, surely the dawn of a new era in my life. Thank you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01820196265352060140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-42298925484946651182011-10-05T10:11:42.613-04:002011-10-05T10:11:42.613-04:00What is the source for the William James quote?
A...What is the source for the William James quote?<br /> As Jeffrey Schwartz pointed out in his book The Mind and the Brain, William James fully understood what we now know to be the reality of the malleability of our neurology.<br />In Principles of Psychology 1890, James said that the ability to fix one's attention on a stimulus or a thought and "hold it fast before the mind" was the act tha constituted "the essential achievement of the will"Evagriushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11572081568214207016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-57346377521590093482011-10-04T12:22:18.227-04:002011-10-04T12:22:18.227-04:00"Then replace it with your new truth."
..."Then replace it with your new truth."<br /><br />And that continues to be the missing piece. I think most people are not good script writers and can't easily concoct a new personal.<br /><br />What people need, what I need, is a Dictionary of Transformational Conversations because I neither have the lifespan or skills to reinvent these conversations for myself and it's certainly highly likely that 99% of the conversations are applicable to everyone.Randy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-43215051312512128992011-10-04T11:57:37.984-04:002011-10-04T11:57:37.984-04:00Great practical article on self destructive belief...Great practical article on self destructive beliefs/sabotage. Many individuals talk about limiting beliefs but there seems to be a real void when it comes to practical solutions. Thanks for the suggestions.Jim Devinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10559734881283500229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-28184340070678792442011-09-27T11:42:46.483-04:002011-09-27T11:42:46.483-04:00Yes, this is a real serious problem. I certainly h...Yes, this is a real serious problem. I certainly have had unrelenting standards that manifest as "I should've tried harder...if I really did give it my 100%, instead of 'only' 95% I wouldn't be suffering with such and such.<br /><br />The bad thinking is that because I don't have the life I want I must've made mistakes...and if only I tried harder they wouldn't have occurred.<br /><br />Yep, that's a tough one.<br /><br />I understand you're not talking about not having moral standards or personal integrity. I SHOULD behave well with others and I SHOULD NOT steal, etc. And if I do have breakdowns I should be accountable for them, etc., so I can get back to being in the present.Randy Zeitmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414896027224112387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3667609426645247378.post-29898682507916864942011-09-20T07:54:41.347-04:002011-09-20T07:54:41.347-04:00Thanks for this one...i loved your last para..espe...Thanks for this one...i loved your last para..especially the last line!! Made my day..was waiting for your column to show up this Tue. :)<br /><br />Thanks<br />Bhavs<br />IndiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com